Farewell Fishy…


Today we said goodbye to a special little friend. Timmy the Fish was Will’s second Siamese fighter & has done well to last nearly 2 years of fishy-ness in our house (we have a bad track record).

I was a bit apprehensive about breaking the news after Will’s first fish (aptly named Finley) died. He can be a bit of a sensitive little thing, but I am against doing what an astonishing number of people recommended which is replacing said fish with a close replica and pretending nothing happened.

For one, my son has a rather sharp eye for detail and would be onto me in a flash. Secondly, I think it’s important that children understand death and learn to cope with loss.

After the demise of Finley, my MIL arrived within hours of the event – new fish in hand. I was really disappointed with this as I felt there has been no time for Will to grieve and move on.  The fact that a life (even a fishy one) is so dispensable and easily replaced is not a lesson I am keen to reinforce.

But my boy surprised me, and although happy about his new fish, accepted that it didn’t fully take the place of the first.

This time around he handled it very maturely once again. He insisted on digging the hole to bury Timmy himself (a painfully slow process for such a little fish) and even said a few little words without prompting “Timmy, you were a good fish. Very pretty. I will miss you”.

I’m very proud of my boy. And yes, we will be getting another fish. But maybe not until tomorrow.



Image from We Heart It


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